You’ve hit the mother lode. This phrase floated into my mind this week as I started thinking about Mother’s Day approaching and what I might write about. The mother lode.
I know I hit the mother lode with my mother. Lois Jane Kirk Yantis is da bomb. And, the best mom on da planet.
Hitting the mother lode actually means “hitting the richest vein of something,” initially in reference to the richest mineral or ore. Mother Lode, famously, during the California Gold Rush was what the gold miners searched for, the densest area of hard rock gold deposits along the West Coast. It became the source of their hopes and dreams. Because when one hit the mother lode it could potentially change their life forever. You can just imagine the community chatter at the end of a long, laborious day of mining. “Did y’all hear? Henry hit the mother lode.” And, the room would nod collectively in reverence and hope.
It got me thinking about other things that have been given the auspicious honor of being called the mother, depicting it as a source for its life.
To name a few -
Motherboard - the premiere operating system.
Motherland - the land that birthed people and nations, or the nation where one is born.
Mothership - the main vessel that serves as home for smaller ships.
Mother Nature - the spiritual origin of all of Earth’s nature.
When something is the mother lode, it’s the pinnacle, the thing that’s worth the price of admission. It seems to me it's the highest honor you can bestow on something. That of Mother-ness.
Mother lode also means “the origin of something valuable, of great abundance.” What a beautiful way to think about giving birth. Birthing a person. I can’t think of anything more valuable or abundant than that.
I don’t have children of my own so Mother’s Day has been a loaded event for me over the years. You could say it’s a Mother Load.
I bought myself a Mother’s Day card this week while selecting one for my mom and sister. It read: “You’re such a badass mother that you didn’t give birth to a child… You gave birth to a legend.” If I were writing that I’d change the word legend to legacy.
Following that line of thinking, a mother lode is also the origin, or birth, of a legacy.
Mothering is birthright, whether you’re a mother to children, or not. We all give birth to ideas. And, if you birth creative projects or businesses or buildings or communities, then as the creator of your own offspring, you’re a resident of Motherhood too.
It also got me thinking about Self-Mothering, loading your own container with self-care. Creating your own mother-load.
How do you mother yourself? Hmm.
It helps to start by thinking about how good mothers care for their children and families.
- Unconditional love - loving us, relentlessly, no matter what
- Provides physical care - when we’re sick or need to be fed or nurtured.
- Listens to our ramblings - in only the way a mother does, with rapt attention.
- Motherly advice - often knows better than we do what’s best for us. And often repeats it until we get it.
- Offers support - sometimes both financial & spiritual
- Makes time - often dropping everything when we need her
Now, how about if you took each of the above to load up on some deep self-mother love? With unconditional love, caring for yourself physically, listening to your heart and soul, heeding your own wisest counsel, staying in tune with yourself financially and spiritually, and making and taking time for yourself.
So, after you remember or honor your own mother on this Mother's Day, how about honoring the motherhood in yourself.
Now that's hitting the mother lode of a mother load.